Say What You Mean by Coach Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, MS, PCC, CTC Communications between two or more people can be very complicated, especially when one or more persons do not want to say what they really mean. The other day I had a conversation with someone who for whatever reason could not say directly what she wanted to say. It was only after the conversation ended that I realized what she truly meant. By not being upfront and clear about the true meaning of the conversation, we lost the opportunity to truly connect and support each other. People don't communicate what they really want to say for many reasons. They might be afraid of conflict or hurting someone's feelings. The truth is that conflict can be beneficial if handled in a positive way. We can grow through conflict and deepen our relationships by working through it. If we avoid it we avoid connecting on a deeper level. And although we are powerful human beings, we can't hurt someone else's feelings unless they choose to allow that to happen. If we are being honest and coming from a space of love, that is all we can do. How the other person perceives it is up to them. Also, the idea of not wanting to hurt someone else's feelings can simply be an excuse we use for not wanting to do something that is uncomfortable. I didn't say telling the truth and communicating fully and honestly is easy. However, it supports us in reaching a deeper sense of connection and supports us in building strong loving relationships.. Coaching: Communicating our truth might not always be easy. In the long run it will be more beneficial. If you say what you mean you will not have to worry that the other person has gotten your message or hope that the other person is a mind reader. Being clear and honest in our communications allows us to cut through the clutter that separates us from others and allows us to build strong positive relationships. Where are you not speaking your truth? Do you have something to say that you are not saying? Practice what you need to say and then go and say it. You will feel better and you will be on your way to creating stronger more long lasting relationships. Daily Success Formula: Clear + Honest + Truthful = Real Communications Quotes: In order to be a diplomat one must speak a number of languages, including double-talk. --Carey McWilliams Conscience is the inner voice that warns us somebody may be looking. --H.L.Mencken Better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt. --Mark Twain Coach Rachelle Disbennett-Lee is an international professional business and personal coach with 17 years of corporate management experience in the telecommunication industry. She brings first-hand knowledge and experience to her thriving coaching practice. Her clients include mid- level managers, business owners and entrepreneurs. Coach Lee has a Master's degree in Management from Regis University and is a part-time faculty member at the University of Phoenix, Denver Campus. She is a trainer for Coach University and is a published writer and an accomplished presenter. Coach Lee is currently earning a Doctorate degree at Walden University in Applied Management and Decision Sciences with a specialization in Business Coaching. Coach Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, MS, PCC, CTC True Direction Coaching, Inc. 4255 S. Buckley Road, PMB 123 Aurora, CO 80013 (303) 617-6196 http://www.coachlee.com rachelle@coachlee.com Contact E-mail: ktsparks@earthlink.net